Change your state, change your timeline
The pattern has been choosing for you, now it's your time to choose.
You know your pattern by heart. You're done living it.
Choose your new relationship timeline in ten minutes
Belief Coding® Facilitator. EFT Practitioner.
Experience: 8 years in change work & 16 years in education
YOU KNOW THIS MOMENT
It's 2am, everyone is asleep and it's back.
You are staring into he bathroom mirror. The same question you thought you'd answered.
A quiet vigil for something you lost so long ago you forgot its name.
THE WALL
It gets real, and the pattern finds the exit.
THE LOOP
New face, same ending. You could write the script by now.
THE INVISIBLE CEILING
It gets good, and the pattern quietly takes it apart.
THE MASK
They fall for the version of you that never asks for anything.
Every pattern has a shape. Take 3 minutes to answer 11 questions for free and
find the knot holding your old timeline in place.
THE BYPASS
YOU'VE DONE THE WORK BUT, THE PATTERN IS STILL HERE.
The therapies. The books. The retreats. The healings. You can name your attachment style in your sleep.
A whole industry has been selling insight and calling it change. Insight shows you the door.
Choosing to do differently takes you through it.
Understanding a pattern without moving has a name. The Bypass. Insight without movement keeps you in the awareness loop, circling the same ground while life waits on the other side.
Awareness will not carry you across the threshold. Only the brave choice will.
Shaky legs, steady core, but you take a step forwards. That's the threshold.
WHERE YOU'RE STANDING
In love, the state you're in is the world you are experiencing.
It decides what you notice, what you reach for and who you let in.
When you change your state, you change your timeline.
It's rarely the same state everywhere. Your love life can be tangled while your professional flows freely.
Every part of your life is standing somewhre.
THE KNOT
"I'm tangled in the pattern"
THRESHOLD
THE CHOICE
"I get to choose"
THE FLOW
"I can go with life"
THE RETURN
"I'm home in myself"
Find where you're standing
FREE MASTERCLASS
The Change Your State Masterclass
A guided walk through what's running underneath your relationship patterns, and how to move out of them.
INSIDE YOU'LL SEE:
The states you move through, from tangled in the pattern to home in yourself, and the threshold between them.
How to read a state by the belief running it underneath.
The three ways you move through any feeling: tighten, go round, or open up.
The moment you're invited to choose differently, and why insight on its own circles it.
How a state lives inside you, with other people, and out in the world.
Then what it takes to cross the threshold, and stay on the other side.
THE TEN MINUTE TOOL FOR CHOOSING YOUR NEW RELATIONSHIP TIMELINE
What is your North Star?
Before you can cross the threshold into your new timeline, you need to choose what you're moving towards.
North Star helps define what matters to you and what you are ready to leave behind.
THE PROCESS:
Find your North
Define what you really want
Clear the Fog
See where you are standing in your way
Go
Take the first steps towards your new relationship timeline
HOW THE CROSSING HAPPENS
Embody the Resonance of your new Timeline
You're already embodying a resonance. This is where choose which one.
One-to-one Belief Coding® finds the belief underneath the patterns and changes the meaning of the experiences it was built on, so the crossing holds.
Optional EFT integration sessions help your body settle into the new ground and stay there.
What happened to you doesn't change, but what that came to mean to you does.
Step out of the knot, across the threshold and onto the fertile ground you have chosen.
Change the belief
Belief Coding®
Integrate the shift
EFT Tapping
See the whole board
Readings
WHAT CHANGES
New faces, the same endings until the meaning changes
She kept choosing emotionally unavailable partners. The belief underneath formed when she was five.
Once its meaning changed, the charge on the old dynamic was gone. She stopped accepting inconsistency and breadcrumbs packaged as a feast.
She stopped settling.
She gave herself what she had been seeking from others, and who was able to get close to her shifted dramatically.
He kept attracting the same dynamic with a different face.
It traced back to one memory and a belief about what he deserved in love, formed before he was old enough to question it.
Within weeks his boundaries held without even trying.
The people who used to live rent free in his mind no longer got a set of keys.
They had done years of therapy, could narrate their attachment style to anyone, and still found themselves begging for the bare minimum.
The belief underneath was about safety.
Once it changed, they stopped making themselves available for less, and started choosing from who they had become.
We unconsciously live in three worlds,
all of them governed by how you react emotionally.
It'd be better if we could consciously choose how to respond instead!
Download my free guide on 'The three worlds of the human experience' below.
WHAT CLIENTS HAVE TO SAY
ABOUT ALASTAIR
I LEARNED TO STAY QUIET AGED SIX
A grown-up told me to shut up when I saw something they missed.
I decided it wasn't safe to speak up, and that belief ran my relationships for decades.
I stayed quiet when I needed to be heard.
Through Belief Coding®, I started speaking up at the right time. Overnight, I stopped letting people who repressed my voice into my personal life.
Then the deeper patterns came into view, and I crossed that threshold too.
Now I walk people towards their own thresholds, the step they take is always theirs.
